We are here to succeed and to live rich and fulfilling lives. No one is perfect. Life is both difficult and wonderful. We can't change the truth that personal growth can be painful and challenging. We can, however, change how we look at our problems. All of us can learn to speak more clearly about our problems and our needs. All of us can learn to listen more effectively and empathically. It is empowering to be able to speak about the circumstances that distress us and to be able to express our needs. Skillful listening furthers the bonds of love and trust. Both skillful expression and skillful listening are essential to create mutually satisfying solutions.